I was talking to someone about this over coffee today. About the importance of remembering the meaning for a wedding when it’s so easy to get caught up. My heart’s in this post, guys. Thought it may deserve a little TBT second go-around. Happy Thursday!
For a while, I struggled with the idea that I was doing everything wrong.
As a wedding planner scrolling through a newly-introduced Pinterest a couple years ago, I kind of beat myself up over not packing my clients’ weddings to the brims with all the trendy details I was seeing. I convinced myself almost overnight that the only acceptable things were things no one else had ever done before, ever, and that blazing my own pin-worthy path was necessary to being considered good at my job.
Do newly-engaged ladies feel overwhelmed and discouraged like this about planning their own weddings? Most likely…
I love Pinterest because it gives me a peek into my clients’ personalities and visions when things are sometimes difficult to explain in words. But I would be lying if I said I didn’t resent it a little bit, too. It’s intimidating. I am fearful that instead of feeling giddy about getting engaged, brides almost immediately feel overwhelmed and challenged and discouraged at the thought of creating something to measure up to the boards they’ve been building for years.
Luckily, it didn’t take long for me to regain my confidence. I’d planned years and years worth of beautiful, thoughtful big days for so many sweet couples, many of whom I still keep up with on Facebook and some I’ve even since planned baby showers for. These past clients have wonderful marriages. I take pride in that, and am grateful that even now, my clients are ones who believe that tradition always wins over trendy.
I think it’s wonderful to draw some inspiration from Pinterest, but weddings a little too-packed with Pinterest projects are easy to spot, and while I appreciate them, they’re just not the weddings I like to inspire my clients to plan. To me, a wedding is the start of a marriage before anything else. It’s a day as pretty-as-a-picture, personal and welcoming and memorable and fun. It’s about happy tears and hands-to-hearts and parents in the front row. It’s about reuniting family. It’s about vows and promises and the groom seeing you in that dress for the first time. Feelings.
This week, I helped a bride sift through boxes in her grandparent’s old garage barn to find the vows that her grandma and grandpa recited 63 years ago. We found them and she’s over-the-moon excited to read them during her own ceremony this summer. It’s a feeling that can’t be pinned. And that man will be her husband long after people have stopped loving lace-wrapped masons and ombre wedding cakes.
I don’t think I’ll ever be the planner who tries to pack every wedding with as many details as I have pins, but they never lack emotion and thoughtfulness and prettiness and personality, and for that, I can’t – and don’t – have one single regret.
So to my sweet clients, I’m glad you think digging through attics with me is worth it. It totally is.
Photo by Terri Smith Photo, from Tyler + Tim’s pretty southern wedding last June. (She travels Tuscaloosa and Birmingham brides!)