The old saying goes, “A man never knows how unimportant he is until he goes to his own wedding.” Though this may have been true a decade ago, it is far from the case today. Long gone are the days that the groom is only responsible for popping the question and being on time at the church. Today’s couple is all about compromise and collaboration! So the ultimate question is, what’s a groom to do?
I feel like this question is asked a lot today. What’s appropriate for the groom? How can he be involved and add his own personal touches? The answer: Anytime and everywhere! This day is about two people uniting and starting their new life together, while also having some fun and drinking some bubbly! So why shouldn’t this be the same as bride and groom-to-be plan their Big Day, starting when the happy couple sits down to discuss their ideas and expectations for the very first time? Because once priorities have been discussed and a wedding day vision comes together, the fun really starts, and not just for the bride!
The lovely and timeless Emily Post has taught us that there are specific things that a groom is required to do. Here are just a few….
• Choosing the groomsmen
• Choosing the groomsmen attire
• Selecting thank-you gifts for the groomsmen
• Arranging lodging for the groom’s wedding party
• Picking a gift for the bride
• Compiling the groom’s part of the guest list
• Planning the honeymoon
• Giving the officiant the fee for conducting the ceremony
• Paying for the marriage license
• Planning the bachelor party
• “The Groom’s Toast”
• Dancing the first dance with the bride, dancing with the couple’s mother and maid of honor
These items are just a few of the many things that Ms. Post shares as correct form. But today, there are so many other things that the groom can do. He can attend the vendor appointments, pick out wedding colors, hire the band or DJ, choose the cake, etc. If the groom loves to play golf, then let’s get him a big golf club groom’s cake. If he is in the military, let’s incorporate a Saber Arch. If the groom is very outdoorsy and loves to be on the river, set up a canoe to hold drinks at the reception. These are all just a few examples of how the groom can be represented throughout the wedding with his own personal touches. Even if it’s something small, your groom will appreciate it and love that you incorporated him into the wedding. Remember, it’s the thought that counts!
Thank you to SRE intern Sadler Sanders for today’s post. Love this topic! And to Black & Hue Photography for this shot from Becca & Aaron’s wedding last fall. Love this bride & groom equally as much. (;
Monday morning back in Tuscaloosa! Two weeks in Florida, two amazing weddings, two sets of newlyweds and one happy wedding planner.
I’m sitting in my brand new home office this morning – boxes in every single corner, all filled with pretty things to be set up, hung up and filed away.
My sweet husband moved everything we own from our little rental to our brand new house while I was away, and the organizer in me can’t wait to dig into these boxes and start making this new place cozy.
In the meantime, with the recent start of baseball season, my sportswriter husband ran across this, which I feel like we need to talk about. (;
I have always been weary of the (very) public proposal. I feel like it’s such a personal, private moment and such a huge question and life decision, and that all of that gets taken away a bit when the proposal is so public.
But that’s just personal little me. Some gals are all for it – the bigger the production, the better. If you’re one of those girls – or are just eager to soak up some conversation-starting fun facts – take a peek at the cost to propose in each of baseball’s major league stadiums.
What do you all think about the idea of a public proposal? Was yours very public?
Meet Ciara and Sadler! Both sophomores at Alabama, one an interior design major with the prettiest handwriting you ever did see and the other a southern girl from Tupelo, Miss., enthusiastic as can be and in love with weddings just about as much as me.
These two will be hanging out with me this summer as Shannon Reeves Events interns, and with three new SRE brides (Tuscaloosa and Lake Martin this fall & Huntsville next summer) and a big Birmingham wedding this June, it’s sure to be a packed season full of love and flowers (and lots of behind-the-scenes planning!).
Welcome girls! So excited to have you!
Happy Monday from Tallahassee! I drove in from Tuscaloosa last Thursday and it’s been a whirlwind since then! An all-day install and ceremony rehearsal for Sarah and Brian’s outdoor wedding at Lichgate on Friday and wedding day on Saturday. Side note: You guys HAVE to visit this place. Grab a book and a picnic and have the most peaceful lunch hour ever. Really, do it. More photos from Amanda Sumner soon!
And yesterday, a visit to Lee, a tiny little farm town in North-Central Florida to visit Leah & Brian, who will get married there on Saturday. We’ve been planning their wedding for more than a year now – beautiful linens and draped tents, a children’s tea party with mini boutonnieres and flower halos, an eight-piece band and a striped dance floor, a giant wooden altar cross and old-fashioned church pews (Easter-weekend perfect) and a million other little details. One excited girl here.
And after that, what I thought was going to be a little visit with a girlfriend was actually a surprise Sunday tea party and baby shower planned by my best girlfriends in Tallahassee – pink and monogrammed and the girlist of girly. Such a sweet surprise, and left me thinking about what I must have done so right to deserve all these good things. So grateful for friends who are so excited for us and with us…just unreal. (:
Off to a lunch date to hear all about Miss Erin’s May wedding plans (my very last booked Tallahassee wedding). Happy Monday!
So excited to finally share our exciting news!
Our new little lady is due August 20 and I’m already shopping for bloomers and bows, tiny little leggings and all-things-girly. (;
Also: I’m pretty certain that seeing DC with a little girl is going to make me cry every single day. Just couldn’t be more excited!
Thank you to Heather Davis of Paper Please Studio for designing this precious little announcement for us! Our first little framer for the nursery. <3
Those of you who follow along on the Shannon Reeves Events Facebook or Instagram pages may know that I’ve spent the last week in Destin and Pensacola, Fla. celebrating DC’s 30th birthday. We celebrated in a precious beach bungalow packed with 14 best friends, a sunny boat day and the clearest emerald gulf water we could have hoped for, cookouts and fancy dinners, golf and shopping and birthday cake and surprise presents. So fun.
Home sweet Tuscaloosa now, with new-house closing scheduled (!), spring weddings right around the corner, two new SRE clients to get excited with and a wonderful little surprise email from Style Me Pretty with some good news. And today…a gloomy day perfect for cozying up with wedding work and pretty things.
I haven’t been posting lately, but things have been the best kind of busy around here! After months and months of house hunting in Tuscaloosa, we found one that was literally love at first sight. In a historic neighborhood where kids play in front yards and people working in their gardens stop to look up and wave when you drive by. Old hardwood floors, light pouring in everywhere you look and a cute white kitchen with a big white farmhouse sink. More on this soon (if all goes well with inspection and closing in the next few weeks!)
I posted a call for interns and got such great applications. So many positive, creative, fun responses (thank you so much ladies!), but I’m super excited about the two (picking one = impossible) ladies on board for the spring and summer. You’ll meet them really soon. (;
I met with a Birmingham bride-to-be about helping to design and coordinate her October wedding and it was one of those meetings where things just click. The best kind.
Since then, I visited Lake Martin, where she and her fiancé have been spending summers for as long as they’ve been together. It’s the perfect perfect backdrop for the wedding of a classic, southern girl and her outdoor-loving, sportsmen fiancé. And you guys, I visited Lake Martin on the perfect day last week. Warm sunny weather and water like glass. And the Chapel at Children’s Harbor tucked right along the banks, with a little harbor lighthouse to match. How cute and perfect.
I promise to keep you updated on all these fun things going on! In the meantime, it’ll be a busy week tying finishing-touch bows on all the details of our spring weddings before heading to the beach for a big friend-packed birthday weekend in Destin (DC turns 30!).
Happy St. Patrick’s Day!
Sharing an older (but always helpful) post over on The Southern C today! Pop over and visit, and grab some home-y southern recipes, etiquette tips, good reads and southern city travel advice while you’re there. (;
Thank you again to Crystal and Alex, two of our closest friends, for modeling your pretty faces and Ashley Daniell Photography for this photo from my very first SRE shoot!
I’m so excited to start the week with such happy, fun wedding memories. Remember these two? They celebrated their first wedding anniversary yesterday, and with a new baby boy to add to the happiness!
Aida sent me a little thank you yesterday and every time “thank yous” from past brides come my way, I feel like I should send one right on back. I just love this work and being able to play a part in one of the biggest days of people’s lives is the biggest honor. Really.
Happy anniversary to my sweet, grateful, oh-so-glam new mommy friend Aida, and thank YOU for letting me play a small part in your Big Day.
All the pretty photos by Woodland Fields Photography are right here for anyone who wants to take a peek. (;
Alabama has given Shannon Reeves Events the biggest, best first impression after its move from Florida last November. Dates are booking, and with spring and summer in Tuscaloosa quickly approaching, it’s the perfect time to bring on another set of hands to start learning the ropes and getting up-to-speed on the Shannon Reeves Events brand before we officially jump into our first wedding season here in Alabama.
Shannon Reeves Events is looking for a Spring/Summer 2014 intern and the perfect fit could be you!
The position is unpaid, but can be used for college credit. The ideal candidate would be available to meet in person at least once a week through this spring and summer to brainstorm creative, fun ideas relating to current and future projects, to assist with styled shoots and design projects and to be a friendly, positive face to help promote the SRE brand in the Tuscaloosa community.
The SRE intern will also be expected to assist on event and wedding days, which are long, but come with big morning coffees, cute picnic basket lunches and so much fun. Our perfect fit must be available on June 6th and 7th, and loving Lilly Pulitzer sundresses, monograms and all-things-girly gets you bonus-points. (;
So if this sounds like just your thing, or if you’re looking to learn more about event planning, coordinating and design, please inquire with a general introductory email, your resume and a quick statement about why you are the best fit for the Shannon Reeves Events brand. Bundle it all together in an email and send along to me at Shannon@ShannonReevesEvents.com by Wednesday, March 5 and I promise to keep you posted!
I can’t wait to hear from you!
Photo from Caitlin & Jamison’s wedding by Terri Smith Photo.